My fiance and me are having problems?

I don't even know where to begin. We have been having some issues. We haven't been intimate for two years. Yep, two years. For one year we stopped having because I had a health problem. Well, I am fine now. Then the following year it's been because of wedding planning, new jobs that we both got and arguments we have been having with the wedding. I have tried to talk to him about these issues and he just clams up, gets angry and say's give it time it will work itself out. He says it's been a combination of resentment because of our arguments and due to the health crisis I had that caused a bad habit of doing without . I am frustrated and feel neglected that he is not taking this seriously. Last night I tried t talk to him about it and he said leave me alone I have to go to work. I have cried and pleaded wtih him and he just doesn't want to talk about it. I finally told him that on our honeymoon night (January 2009) I am not going to have with him because if he can't work on the issues now, then why should I force myself to be intimate with him that night when he has been neglecting the issue. I have a right to feel comfortable too. If I am not heard I shouldn't force myself to have with him when I have become resentful towards him and angry. He's even told me to wear y things for him. How can I wear sexy things if he can't have sex with just me. I don't feel motivated to get dressed for a man who neglects how I am feeling.